It’s R U OK day today. I hope you’re all ok? Are you? In our society, it seems to be the norm where it’s good manners, expected even, that our response is positive. “Yes, everything is ok!” But, I know that everything is not always ok.
Mental health is something we all need to focus on from time to time and it’s very important we prioritise it. Without our mind being healthy, we are often left in a dark, heavy slump. These heavy dark slumps are painful, crippling and zap your energy like any physical illness.
If you’re not ok, that’s ok! But you are the only one to be able to do something about it. Take the first step and chat to someone, put it out there, deal with it head on. Don’t keep putting it off, blaming others for your problems or wishing someone else could help. Because you are the control centre of your mental health, nobody else. Take ownership over your life, your mind and your problems. There’s real power in doing this, I assure you.
This year has been a challenging one personally, with a lot of stressors at play and anxiety trying to cripple me. In some respects, I’m very lucky to have had anxiety and depression play an integral role in my life for the past 20 years, as it’s taught me to know myself, who I am, accept all of what I am (and what I’m not), what I value, what I expect from others and most importantly, what I won’t tolerate. They are super powerful tools to learn and use to know what to do when your mind is battling against you. People will try as much as they like to bring you down, doubt yourself, doubt your foundations and relationships. But in the end, if you have all of these elements in your mental toolbox, you will come out the other end with a clear perspective. Take the time to be you, accept yourself for who you are, flaws and all and, be at peace with all that you’re not.
Chatting to family and friends is so crucial. To get another persons perspective can clear your mind so much and alleviate some of that built up pressure that stress, depression and anxiety has a tendency to cause. Go to your GP and have a chat to him. Get a referral to a psychologist. They work wonders in helping you feel better in your own skin and mind and make you see that you are ok, just the way you are!
If you need medication, don’t feel ashamed, don’t feel weak. Feel PROUD of yourself for helping yourself and making a move into better mental health. Men, I’m talking to you as well.
“To anyone suffering with mental illness; you are one badass mother f*cker because nothing is more terrifying than battling with you own mind every single day.” Unknown
Get outside into the beautiful fresh air. Start your morning with a walk, even if it’s just around the block (I used to hate being told this). Start a garden! It doesn’t matter what it is, what it looks like, whether it’s inside or out. But it’s something you can nurture and take care of and think of other than yourself and your spiralling thoughts. It’s extremely rewarding. Have a bath, have a shower. There is something about being in water that can be immensely soul soothing. Have a day in bed. Have two days in bed! Accept it for what it is and give it the time to pass. Just be careful not to make it a whole week, a month, or a year. Get yourself up. Eat well, at least between the chocolate and chips your body is asking for. Exercise, even if it’s just for five minutes. Do not put pressure on yourself though, as this can lead to five steps backwards and a mindset of failing yourself.
If you are grieving, experiencing Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, have suicidal thoughts or tendencies, Depression, Anxiety, eating disorders, addictions or even a phobia that is so terrifying that you struggle to face it head on, talk about it, please! That is the first, crucial step to feeling better!
There is help available, whether it’s from the person next to you or a stranger at a clinic who may one day be your saviour.
I’ll ask you again;
Are you Ok?
Because if you’re not, that is ok x
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Note. If you have a negative stigma or outlook towards anyone who may be suffering, shame on you and go and educate yourself.